“Whenever speech overwhelms and
silences, it is not [an] expression of love.”[i] When speech is not an expression of love, the
speaker does not “affirm the freedom and dignity of the one spoken to, but uses
him or her for extrinsic purposes.
Harvard divinity professor, Harvey Cox, makes these comments in an essay
in which he draws out a Biblical concept of God in the way he connects speech
and love. The Gospel of John begins, “in
the beginning was the word and the word was with God and the word was God”
(1:1). And then verse 14, “the word
became flesh and dwelt among us.” And 1
John 4:16b, “God is love.” So, God is “word”
(logos). And God is love. Thus, word is love, or it should be. “Since God’s
love/speech is unqualified, we should love all
people regardless of whether they qualify.[ii]
Cox’s
essay appears in ‘A Common Word,’ which was first a letter written by Muslim
scholars, addressed to Christians worldwide.
The intent was to call Christians and Muslims together around the two
commands present in both faiths: love God and love neighbor. The book by the same title is comprised of
essays from scholars of both faiths that further develop the concept of love
and how it can, as a topic, be the ground on which Muslims and Christians meet
in peace.
Cox
insists that love cannot be coerced, only chosen. We can’t be made to love God. We choose to because God has overwhelmed us
with his freely given love. But it is
that, a gift. The counter-speech, or “antiparable”
to use Cox’s speech is seduction and sorcery.
Seduction does what Cox wrote that it does; it uses people.
He
quotes Goethe’s Faust to illustrate
his point, but the conversation moves out of the realm of dry academic writing
and into the realm of uncomfortable invasion of personal space when we turn the
question. Instead of pointing out how
Faust uses people with his speech, we have to ask do we? Do you?
Have you spoken in ways, whether bullying or deceiving, browbeating or
seducing, in order to get someone to do something for your benefit, but not
necessarily for theirs? Have I? You better believe I have.
I
have used speech to run down a woman who turned back my romantic
overtures. I have spoken violently to
intimidate my children just to convince myself I was in control. I have manipulated others for my own
ends. I have used speech to use
people. People are God’s image-bearers
and I have sinned by seeing them as tools for my own personal use. In the thought space of Cox’s essay, that’s
seduction, not love.
The
second way sin turns love aside is sorcery.
“Sorcery mocks and reverses God’s loving speech.”[iii] Lovespeech communicates “in ways that
preserve and nourish the freedom and dignity of people addressed.”[iv] Sorcery, robs people of their dignity. Cox sees three forms of sorcery as it exists
in modern practice: propaganda, advertising, and complexification.
Of
these forms of modern word-sorcery, advertising is especially insidious. Advertising plays on the anxieties that
plague people, especially in America. TV
watchers and internet users in America are out of shape, isolated, lonely, and sedentary. And they (we Americans) know it. Because we see the emptiness of our own
lives, advertisers use beer, shampoo, potato chips, diet plans, dating
services, video games, cars, and 1000 other products as ways to rescue us from
our anxiety. The anxiety makes us
vulnerable and into the space our own insecurity has carved out, advertisers convince
us to spend money we don’t have on products we don’t want or need, products
that won’t deliver what the advertiser promised. Sorcery is the right word for it.
Christians
are to speak and listen to lovespeech.
Note the difference. Sorcery
deceives and seduction uses. In sorcery,
humans – God’s image bearers – are pillaged.
In seduction, God’s image bearers are used as tools. In lovespeech, God’s image bearers are given
dignity and helped to flourish.
Cox
and the other authors in A Common Word
urge Muslims and Christians in the world to work for human flourishing by
focusing on love of God and love of neighbor.
Love is essential in bringing together the billions of adherents to
these faiths. Beyond the scope of A Common Word, love softens the hearts
of Buddhists and Hindus, Jews and Mormons to one another.
And
in the topic that has been my focus in these blog posts – race relations and
Christianity - love is the foundation.
No attempts at justice or reconciliation will be successful without
love.
So,
put the question to yourself as you become intention about your own
speech. Let this be an exercise in the
day ahead. Does your speech promote the
dignity of the one to whom you speak? Do
your words reveal that you are trying to use that person the way a plumber uses
a wrench or other tool? Is your speech
lovespeech, speech that helps the other flourish? Or, when you talk, is the other being
manipulated, led down paths that will lead to his destruction? Put your own speech to the test. Jesus, the World made Flesh is our guide and
our standard. May the meditations of our
hearts and the words of our mouths be acceptable in his holy sight.
[i] Harvey
Cox (2010), “Love and Speech: with Remarks on Seduction and Sorcery” in A Common Word: Muslims and Christians on
Loving God and Loving Neighbor, Miroslav Volf, Ghazi bin Muhammad, and
Melissa Yarrington, editors, William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company (Grand
Rapids), p.166.
[ii]
Cox, p.165.
[iii] Cox,
p.167.
[iv]
Ibid.
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