I admire Jason Collins for being
true to himself and publically acknowledging his orientation as a gay man. Violent prejudice against homosexuality had
led many young people who feel homosexual attraction to self-loathing. This terribly is sad and unjust. I add my own voice to chorus cheering
Collins. I hope it will open the way
for others to be honest with themselves and with the world.
I am heterosexual. I cannot understand homosexuality at
all. I don’t understand how a man can
look at another man and have the physical and emotional attraction that I have
felt all my mature life toward women and in the most intense expression toward my
wife. Nothing could be more foreign and
inexplicable to me than homosexual attraction.
And yet, as I write that, I am aware
that people who feel same-sex attraction, probably find heterosexuality as
foreign and unappealing and I find homosexuality. A difference is the world affirms the
heterosexual worldview and has trouble with the homosexual orientation. There are people I love, my friends, who are
gay. Because of their sexual attraction,
attractions they did not choose, they have to fit into a world not designed by
them. They have to find their place in a
world where they are not always welcomed and often are abused because of who
they are.
If I am truly a follower of Jesus, I
am wounded by that. It hurts to know
someone is fired, denied, bullied, beaten, cussed out, relegated, rejected, and
demonized. Every person is made in God’s
image – every one! God sees every human with the love of a
parent for a child. God’s aches when God’s
children are injured and homosexual people have been badly injured.
I hope that Jason Collins’ statement
will make the world safer for gay people.
I hope self-loathing becomes a thing of the past. No one should hate himself. When a person drips with disgust at herself,
she cannot possibly receive the love of another. She’s defined by hatred that becomes a filter
through which she experiences the world.
I hope this man’s honesty and openness allows a generation freedom from
self-hate.
Equally, I hope people can speak
their views honestly, without succumbing to pressure that tries to dictate
their reaction when someone like Jason Collins shares what he has shared. Here I am specifically thinking of ESPN
writer Chris Broussard. He writes about
the NBA. I hear him on the radio all the
time. He does fine work. I was very interested in his response not to
Collins, but to the issue in general.
Remember now, Broussard is voicing what he believes to be the right
theology regarding an issue. He is not
speaking for or against Jason Collins.
Here is Broussard’s quote which I saw in the online version the Detroit
Free Press (4/30/13).
““Personally I
don’t believe that you can live an openly homosexual lifestyle or an openly
premarital sex between heterosexuals,” Broussard said. “If you’re openly living that type of
lifestyle, the Bible says you know them by their fruits, it says that’s a sin.
If you’re openly living in unrepentant sin, whatever it may be, not just
homosexuality, adultery, fornication, premarital sex between heterosexuals,
whatever it may be. I think that’s walking in open rebellion to God and to
Jesus Christ. I would not characterize that person as a Christian because I
don’t think the Bible would characterize them as a Christian” (http://www.freep.com/article/20130430/SPORTS03/304300034/).
It
is an impressive theological articulation from someone who makes a living
writing about basketball. The strength
of this writer’s statement is that he does not single out homosexuality in a
prejudicial way. He attempts to identify
a Biblical sexual ethic and I think he does a fine job of it. The overwhelming reaction to Collins’
announcement has been support. Writers,
players, executives, and voices from outside the NBA – the NFL, tennis and even
the White House – have poured forth affirmation for Collins. I sincerely hope Broussard is not brandished
as an out-of-date bigot. I hope he does
not lose his job and is not himself demonized for stating his views, which he
did with eloquence.
He
might. He might be cast as intolerant or
unaccepting. That is unfair but it is
reality. ESPN, in an effort to stay with
societal trends which currently flow toward full affirmation of homosexuality
as a lifestyle choice, may fire him to avoid any backlash. That would be as wrong as evil done to a
homosexual but in today’s climate it is OK to silence Biblically-coated
expressions of faith like the one Broussard made.
In my own
assessment of his comments, I find that Broussard takes it farther than I do. I agree that sexual encounters like adultery
and heterosexual intercourse outside of marriage are outside of the Biblical
paradigm. The only models of sexuality
the Bible endorses are heterosexual marriage and celibacy. Anything outside of that is outside of God’s
vision for humanity. However, Broussard
goes somewhere with that view that is beyond my own understanding. He says he “would not characterize that
person as a Christian” because the Bible doesn’t.
I stop short of
trying to identify who is and is not a Christian. Other sin categories (greed, gluttony, and
sloth) go mostly ignored. People live in
perpetual guilt of these, are unrepentant, and are defined as Christians. Can someone be in a life-long, same sex
partnership and be a Christ-follower? I
certainly think someone in that situation can earnestly seek Jesus. In seeking Jesus, the individual must come to
terms with his sexuality as he relates to Jesus as a sexual being.
There is no area
of life where Jesus is not Lord. He is
Lord of everything. It is hard for me to
imagine someone submitting fully to Jesus’ lordship and at the same time living
in a relationship that is outside of God’s vision for humanity. I know people who want Jesus and at the same
time are openly gay. I know their
hearts. Can someone live the gay life
and be a Christ follower? I am forced to
leave the question open – for God to answer and not me.
My calling in
Christ is to love people. I hope my gay
friends will read this and appreciate where I am coming from. If you are my friend and you are gay, I love
you. You and are I not going to agree
with one another’s views about every aspect of life, but let us have a
friendship that is so honest and true we can stay in it even when we don’t
agree. As a pastor, reading scripture as
I do, I can’t perform your union with your partner. I believe to do so would put me in open
defiance of God. But I will love your
partner because he is a part of you. Maybe
I am wrong about how God sees it. I don’t
think I am wrong, but I know my theology is not perfect, so I state it with
humility.
I pray Jason
Collins has made the world safer. I
commend him for his honesty and courage.
I also appreciate Chris Broussard.
He stated his faith clearly and without the intention to pass eternal judgment. I pray for days in the future when these
topics can be discussed in peace and love.
Jesus is the Prince of Peace and the giver of perfect love. In that I try to emulate him though I fail
often.